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If you are seeking a life partner, you absolutely must start here.

Before you can break through the barriers keeping you from love… before you can step into a specific vision… before you can take action… you need a clear intention.

This step requires a shift from wishing for love to intentionally creating it.

After that night, over a decade ago, when by candlelight I had the epiphany that I would have to do things much differently if I wanted a life partner, this is the first step I took.

Around that time, I was most certainly wishing for love, hoping for it, believing maybe by some chance it would just happen to me…

But the next morning, when I woke up, I made a decision. I said to myself:

“I don’t know if this is possible, but I’m going to set an intention to be the creator of the type of love I’m looking for in my life. I’m going to set an intention to take a stand to create what I most desire.”

Up to that point in my life, I had never really believed I had the power to do that, and perhaps you don’t right now either…

But the truth is, this love, this amazing relationship you’re looking for is not just going to happen to you. You need to awaken a new kind of power than you’ve been using so far to create it.

The reason this has historically been so challenging for us is that we’ve been using the wrong system of power to try to make it happen.

We have either been trying too hard to control love in a way that is part of a masculine power system—trying to force it to happen…

Or we’ve become too passive when it comes to asking for what we want, believing, “If it’s meant to be, it will be.”

And this is where your Feminine Power comes in.

You must stand in a new place by becoming the creator of that which you desire, which will instantly activate your Feminine Power.

This is exactly what I said to myself, too…

And I knew there was no guarantee I would find love.

I felt at the time like I may as well have been saying, “I am going to climb Mount Everest next year,” without ever having been on a hike. This is how impossible finding love felt, because it was so outside of my history. I honestly didn’t know if I was going to succeed.

Perhaps you’re even feeling a rush of fear right now. Perhaps you’re thinking, “What if I pour my whole heart and soul into this and it doesn’t happen?!”

I realize what a terrifying thought that is, so I invite you, right now, to shift your perspective and ask yourself the following questions:

• “What will happen if I really remove all my barriers to receiving love?”
• “What will happen if I expand my capacity to be an amazing partner?”
• “What will happen if I show up really interested and available?”

The answer to all of those questions is that you will create so much more love, fulfillment, connection and joy in your life, regardless of the exact outcome, that you can’t lose!

And just like that, you’ve set an intention. Repeat it aloud now. Write it down.

“I will be the conscious creator of that which I am seeking.”

“I will be the conscious creator of my dream relationship.”

I chose to believe this, and I ask that you believe it, too.

You Don’t Have to Know the “How”

I want to make it very clear at this point that you don’t have to know how you’re going to be the conscious creator of the relationship you yearn for; you just have to set the intention to do it.

Manifesting anything in life is an intentional process, and you have to take this stance to be a creator.

Setting an intention is a powerful step, and one that conscious women often skip because they think this step is implied in their wishing for a relationship, or in their visioning of one.

And while this step can involve some visioning, it’s more about making a commitment to yourself, a contract.

In order to really get committed, you can start by simply asking yourself, “What IS my biggest vision of love?”

If you absolutely believed your soulmate was out there, right now, looking for you, too—and you had the power to create an incredible union with that person—what exactly would you create?

That’s how you begin creating a vision of love.

But before you go about answering this question for yourself, really notice how I framed the question. I said, “IF you believed your soulmate was out there…” because that’s the key.

You have to get onboard, with total faith, in believing this to be true. If you’ve experienced loss, rejection or loneliness, this may feel challenging, but that’s why it’s called faith. You have to choose to believe.

So then, knowing that your soulmate is out there, right now, looking for you, and knowing that you have the power to create an extraordinary, lifelong partnership with them…

What exactly would you choose to create?

“If you absolutely believed that your soulmate was out there, right now, looking for you, too—and you had the power to create an incredible union with them—what exactly would you create?”

To connect with your deepest desires, ask yourself this question, which is a little more specific:

“What do I most deeply desire to experience, to express, to create, and to contribute within my partnership?”

Write down your answers. Read them aloud. Repeat them to yourself. Carry them within you at all times.

Remind yourself as often as possible, “I am the creator of the love I seek.”

When you feel uncertain or fearful or lonely, “I am the creator of the love I seek.”

You’ve set an intention, and this is what living intentionally looks like.

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