Introduction

Are you a conscious, smart, successful, gifted woman looking for a committed, adoring partner who will meet you on every level?

If you’re like so many women out there, you’ve cultivated an incredible life for yourself: you have amazing friends, a thriving career, and are genuinely happy. You have done deep self-work. You are strong, centered, and in tune with who you are.

And yet you’re struggling to find a partner who meets you where you are—who feels like your match. You feel an overwhelming desire for deep, authentic, spiritual, next-level love with a highly evolved mate… but you can’t seem to call this person into your life.

And now, maybe you’ve even begun to think that the extraordinary, reciprocal kind of love you’re searching for is just a fantasy, or that you’re just not destined to have it…

But here’s the truth, and it’s really good news: this type of love is absolutely possible!

Yes, you can be smart, creative, conscious, successful, and brilliant… and have love.

You can have it all.

And I know, with 100% certainty, that this is true, because 12 years ago, I attracted the love of my life and created a partnership that has transformed me and my life beyond my wildest dreams.

I’ve gone on to teach these keys to tens of thousands of women who have already put the information in this ebook into practice—and many are now enjoying deeply fulfilling relationships that have exceeded their wildest dreams, as well.

And if we can do it, you can, too!

Feminine Power Love Keys Success Story
“If I Can Find My Soulmate, Anybody Can” – Diely

By the time my divorce became final in early 2011, I was a 38-year-old mother of four (yes, FOUR) children, including twins with special needs, one of them with serious health issues.

I was living (and still am) in a small seaside town in Florida where most of the men in the population were elderly retirees, and the “limited supply” of younger bachelors consisted mostly of working-class men without any formal education.

I had been warned by friends that being a physician—I’m an oncologist—was a big disadvantage in my search for a partner, because the average man in town was likely to feel intimidated about dating a woman with a higher education level and salary. Not to mention one with so much baggage. And those external obstacles were only the beginning.

I was also carrying a lifelong inferiority complex, sexual taboos, and an oppression mentality from a 3rd-world-country upbringing (I was born in a country where women are considered second-class citizens), and a previous unhealthy marriage.

Thanks to Claire, I realized that one of my blocks to finding love was the Core Belief that I was invisible. Men never seemed to notice me, and that had been one of the reasons why I ended up married to (and then divorcing) the first and only man who ever went after me.

Fast-forward, and less than a year later, not only have I found “a man,” I found The Man.

And I’m head-over-heels, flat-on-my-face, jaw-on-the-floor, drooling in love with the most intelligent, handsome, psychologically stimulating, intellectually challenging, sexiest man I could ever dream of…

A College Professor who has lived in the town for decades—we can’t still believe we had never run into each other!

He has not only embraced my four children as his own, but he also treats me like a princess and encourages me to become the most fulfilled version of myself I could ever be.

Every year together, he stretches my ability to receive happiness, protects me from burn-out from the challenges of my oncology career, and encourages me in my dreams of becoming a writer.

It’s the first time in my life that I can say “Love is supposed to be easy and feel good, instead of feeling like an excruciatingly painful task that takes all my energy.”

It’s not that we have never faced challenges, but still, my “worst” day with him has been better than any day with my ex.

I could talk for hours about how happy I am with David. Even his so-called imperfections are tailored to my needs for growth—almost as if he had been designed to fit ME by someone who loves me and knows me very well.

This Book Is For You If

• You’re questioning whether amazing, lasting love is actually possible, or if soulmates are even real…
• You feel like you have to choose between your career/calling and having love…
• You’re starting to wonder if something is wrong with you—even though everyone tells you what a catch you are—because no matter how much you desire to be in a relationship, you’re still alone…
• You believe true love is only possible once you’ve made significant changes to yourself—lose weight, become less opinionated, reach the next level of your career, and so on…
• You consistently feel let down and frustrated with dating partners who don’t seem to value you for who you are and what you can bring to the relationship…
• You keep ending up in relationships where you give much more than you receive, and you’re feeling depleted, or like your energy isn’t being met…
• You believe that potential partners are intimidated or put off by your strength and success in the other areas of your life, and that you have to dim your own light to be attractive to them…
• You had a prior relationship you truly believed was “meant to be,” but it didn’t work out, so now you’re wondering if you’re just not meant to have love in this lifetime…
• You’ve been rejected by partners, when you weren’t even sure if they were enough for you, adding insult to injury…
• You’ve dated some wonderful people with whom you’ve had incredible chemistry and a soulful connection—yet you were not a match in terms of what you both wanted out of life…
• You’ve had your heart broken and have taken a long break from dating to focus on yourself, and now you’d love to find a life partner, but not only are you afraid of getting hurt again, you question whether your perfect life partner is actually out there.

If any of these experiences describe you, then I know exactly how you’re feeling, and I want you to know you’re not alone.

And I also want you to know that you have the power to move out of any of these mindsets, and to show up for life in a new way that will attract your adoring life partner to you—and more quickly and easily than you probably imagine possible.

In this ebook, I’m excited to share with you exactly how to break through the limitations keeping you from the love you desire and deserve, so you can become the conscious creator of your own destiny.

My Story: From Resigned to Being Alone… To Having My Dream Relationship

12 years ago, I had pretty much given up on love. In fact, this was a part of my life that brought me great pain, embarrassment and confusion.

I had a lot of fantastic friends, I had a successful career, and I seemed to be able to make great things happen in my life.

I also had no trouble at all attracting men, but I struggled with creating meaningful, lasting relationships—with getting to the next level.

I dated, but I was consistently left disappointed or heartbroken.

I deeply yearned for a profound, spiritual, creative, ever-evolving relationship rooted in authentic connection and mutual love. But it did not come naturally to me.

Within each relationship, I felt like I wasn’t really being seen or valued for being me, for what I was bringing to the relationship.

I started wondering if I was “too much of this” or “not enough of that.”

Despite all of the work I did to become my best self, despite my thriving career, my fulfilling social life, my deep spiritual work, my creativity… I was alone.

I started to believe that I had pretty much met all the men out there and none of them could meet me on those levels, none of them was my true equal.

I resigned myself to being alone forever, telling myself that maybe this was my destiny—to serve humanity and the world with my gifts—and that having a partner just wasn’t in the cards for me.

We just can’t have everything, I convinced myself.

These were the types of stories I made up in my head to make sense of the experience I was having.

How could I be so successful and abundant in the other areas of my life while repeatedly failing when it came to love?

And then, late one night in the fall of 2005, by candlelight, I had an epiphany.

I was meditating before falling asleep and really connecting to my deepest, truest feelings—which in truth, were rooted in searing grief.

And then it came to me as a deep knowing, that I was simply not going to experience the love I desired in this lifetime until I did something very different than I’d been doing and consciously created a different experience for myself.

And then, late one night in the fall of 2005, by candlelight, I had an epiphany.

And that very moment marked the beginning of my own process of calling next-level love into my life—the very process I want to share with you in this book.

Once I understood that what I was doing wasn’t working, and I took the precise steps to re-pattern my process, I met Craig, my dearest soulmate, just 6 months later, and my life transformed indescribably.

The first time we ever spent time together, at a conference in Germany, we felt a powerful, energetic field open up immediately. We shared an instant sense of destiny, an awareness of a spectacular connection—nothing short of magic.

We were married in 2007 and since our partnership began, my creativity, my capacity to impact the world, and my own authentic power have expanded exponentially, beyond my wildest dreams, beyond what I thought was even possible in a relationship.

I feel so deeply seen, met on all levels, unconditionally loved and supported for who I am, and also challenged to continually become the best version of myself—which I’ve come to see is the fulfilment of the deepest yearning we have for our romantic unions as self-actualizing women.

And I promise you that you can have love like this, too, and that your soulmate, at this very moment, is out there looking for you.

You just have to know how to draw your perfect partner to you.

In this book, I’m going to share with you the keys I discovered and used myself to create a relationship with my true equal, a relationship that continues to exceed all of my greatest expectations.

Many years ago, my life changed forever, and I know that the same keys I used to change my life in love will support you in transforming your future if you put them to use.

The Painful “Double Bind” That So Many Conscious Women Find Themselves In…

Before we dive in to how to attract the love of your life, it’s important to know why so many of us struggle to do so.

Between my own experience and two decades of research, coaching and mentoring women, I’ve come to see that there’s a painful “double bind” that many women find themselves in that drastically limits their experience of love. I was certainly one of them.

Here’s what this “double bind” can look like.

For instance, if you want a strong, powerful partner, and believe that in order to attract one, you need to be more submissive and feminine.

Or maybe you’ve subscribed to the old advice that you should just listen and make your partner feel interesting.

Or that femininity means subservience, and as a result, you find yourself “disappearing” in relationships, becoming less opinionated, less yourself.

Or, on the other hand, when you choose to be with more conscious partners, who are more evolved and more interested in who you are, and supportive of your ideas and your dreams, you find that you’re attracted to partners with an overabundance of femininity.

And in these relationships, you became a stronger, more generative, and quite frankly, overpowering force in the relationship. You assume the role of caregiver and give more than you receive, depleting yourself.

So many of us women consistently find ourselves in one of two scenarios: we either shrink entirely in a relationship, or we end up being a caretaker, giving so much more than we receive.

And so, rather than choosing between two less-than-desirable options, we often choose to be alone.

There was a point where I really, truly believed that all relationships came down to this type of sacrifice.

But I discovered that there’s another possibility.

We struggle to create these types of dynamic, fruitful, reciprocal relationships because we have not yet integrated the masculine and feminine energy within ourselves.

The solution is that we must discover a new place to stand and show up in that is simultaneously authentic, vulnerable, open, powerful, present, giving and receiving.

The Destructive Myth That “Men Aren’t Attracted to Strong Women”

Because of this double-bind, many of us have been taught to believe that men are simply not attracted to powerful, strong, conscious women.

This is absolutely a myth.

Here is the deeper truth I’ve discovered behind the myth: men are not attracted to women who only value themselves for their accomplishments, what they do, and what they can give.

They are not attracted to women who cannot receive their love, their protection, or their devotion—women who feel like they’ll be out of job if a man shows up powerfully.

They are not attracted to women who can’t celebrate their power without disappearing inside it.

So what can you do?

• The key is discovering how to value yourself for who you are… not for what you accomplish.
• The key is prioritizing the love in your life over achievement and success—which paradoxically enables you to become even more successful, by the way!
• The key is learning how to be authentically vulnerable, which means sharing your power and your struggles.
• The key is moving away from either/or thinking that forces you into believing extremes like, “I’ve got to have it all together” or “I’m a complete mess.”

We, as women, need to learn to show up as whole people, allowing our partners to be our champions and greatest support systems.

Men want nothing more than to give to us, to make us happy, to stand up for us, to protect us, and to empower us to become the wholeness of who we are.

When you show up in this way, you lay the foundation for creating a very different experience with love.

Embracing a New Definition of “Power”

How can you begin to create this new experience with love? By stepping into a new, holistic, balanced type of power.

In order to do that, let’s take a moment to discuss where this awful “double bind” and these limiting myths about womanhood come from:

It originates in the cultural narrative that creates a power differential between men and women that makes women believe they must choose between self-effacing and steamrolling within relationships.

I want to reassure you that these frustrating dating circumstances are not your fault (though you can and will be able to change the results you’re getting).

This pattern of strong, sentient women struggling to find their soulmate is part of a much larger shift that has been taking place for women for about the last fifty years.

If you’re not familiar with my seminars about Feminine Power, let me give you a brief overview here.

Even though you may be feeling a much higher potential for what is possible for you, you are likely also experiencing a painful and confusing gap between that and what you’ve been able to realize in every area of your life…

In spite of the fact that you’re a smart woman who has many accomplishments to be proud of…

And/or you’re a caring woman who does so much for others and has committed deeply to a path of personal and spiritual growth…

In my own research and personal experience over the past decade, I’ve come to see that MILLIONS OF WOMEN are experiencing the pain and confusion of this gap.

You see, the potentials you feel for your life are real, and the struggles you’ve been having trying to bring them forth are not a personal failure…

The gap, the stuckness, or block you’ve been feeling has to do with the masculine power system we’ve been steeped in (without even realizing it!).

It is sourced from logical, linear thinking, analysis, and problem-solving. It is the prevailing power system of the world.

If you look up the definition of “power” in the dictionary, it means to do, to act, to accomplish—and this masculine system of power we have been mastering has been very good and useful for a certain set of things.

Masculine Power is good for:

• Executing goals with controllable, predictable patterns and steps
• Creating infrastructures and technological systems. When you look around at most of the industries that society is built upon, you are witnessing the omnipresence of masculine power
• Solving logical and linear problems

And as useful and necessary as that power system is, it can’t create the things our hearts and souls are now aching for at this next stage of self-actualization or destiny we’re called to, like…

• True love and deep intimacy in growth-oriented relationships
• Authentic confidence, visibility and presence
• Radiance, aliveness, well-being and vitality
• Self-expression and higher creativity
• Prosperity that is aligned with our values
• Fulfillment of our destiny or higher calling
• Igniting others to their greatness
• We cannot achieve these things with the masculine system of power that got us this far.

The power women need to be able to actualize our higher potentials is actually a feminine version of power, which is sourced from a very different place.

Since discovering this truth, I’ve made it my mission to master this process and figure out how to awaken and activate it. What I teach in all of my programs and trainings is how to work and create with this system…

And creating from Feminine Power is essential in the area of manifesting love if you’re seeking a high-quality partner and relationship where you can be seen, known, unconditionally loved for who you are, and supported to become the best version of yourself.

All of the tools you will find within this book emerged naturally as I began to apply what I was discovering about Feminine Power to the area of manifesting and creating love.

“The power women need to actualize our higher potentials is a feminine version of power, which is sourced from a very different place.”

How This Book Works

The keys I’m about to share with you are for attracting your life partner—your soulmate, your true equal, your match on all levels. The committed, adoring person who will finally give you the love and support you desire and deserve, while also nurturing your own personal growth.

This book is divided into 3 chapters, with each chapter corresponding to steps 1-3 in the process or, in other words, the 3 keys to manifesting true and lasting love.

In Chapter 1 (step 1), you’ll learn how to set a clear and unshakable intention to attract the perfect partner for you—and how to stay committed to that intention.

In Chapter 2 (step 2), you’ll learn how to identify the (often subconscious) core beliefs you have about love that are actually repelling your ideal partner and limiting your chance at lasting love.

This chapter includes a workbook-style exercise to help you identify your existing limiting beliefs and replace them with the empowering deeper truths underneath them, allowing you to step into a brand-new kind of power.

In Chapter 3 (step 3), you’ll learn how to create a vision for love that will activate a field of synchronicity that magnetizes your soulmate to you.

There is a proven, sequential process here, so please plan to follow these steps in order, without skipping any parts of the process. You can always re-visit steps, but don’t gloss over any of them. They work powerfully when used correctly.

Through the processes I share in this book, you will discover:

• How to step into a vision for love and true partnership, where you can be seen and known, a relationship deeper than you ever imagined was possible.
• The Feminine Power approach to transforming core beliefs, especially ones that women like us have surrounding love, men, marriage, and long-term partnership.
• The exact visioning practices and manifestation practices I personally used to create and thrive in my dream relationship.
• How to enable a space of receptivity, listening and connection that will make you ready and available for love, able to trust your inner knowing to navigate your interactions with potential partners.
• How to embrace a new way of showing up in the world that is authentically transparent, vulnerable, open and interested—where you feed power and energy to your partner without disappearing yourself or dimming your power in any way.

This is a very new approach to manifesting lasting love, and I can tell you from my own experience that it absolutely works.

I invite you to try it for yourself, beginning with the first step.

Introduction

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