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“If I Can Find My Soulmate, Anybody Can” – Diely

By the time my divorce became final in early 2011, I was a 38-year-old mother of four (yes, FOUR) children, including twins with special needs, one of them also with serious health issues.

I was living (and still am) in a small seaside town in Florida where most of the men in the population were elderly retirees, and the “limited supply” of younger bachelors consisted mostly of working-class men without any formal education.

I had been warned by friends that being a physician—I’m an oncologist—was a big disadvantage in my search for a partner, because the average man in town was likely to feel intimidated about dating a woman with a higher education level and salary.

Not to mention one with so much baggage. Those external obstacles were only the beginning.

I was also carrying a lifelong inferiority complex, sexual taboos, and an oppression mentality from a 3rd-world-country upbringing (I was born in a country where women are considered second-class citizens), and a previous unhealthy marriage.

Thanks to Claire, I realized that one of my blocks to finding love was the Core Belief that I was invisible. Men never seemed to notice me, and that had been one of the reasons why I ended up married to (and then divorcing) the first and only man who ever went after me.

Fast-forward, and less than a year later, not only have I found “a man,” I found The Man.

And I’m head-over-heels, flat-on-my-face, jaw-on-the-floor, drooling in love with the most intelligent, handsome, psychologically stimulating, intellectually challenging, sexiest man I could ever dream of…

A College Professor who has lived in the town for decades—we can’t still believe we had never run into each other!

He has not only embraced my four children as his own, but he also treats me like a princess and encourages me to become the most fulfilled version of myself I could ever be.

Every year together, he stretches my ability to receive happiness, protects me from burn-out from the challenges of my oncology career, and encourages me in my dreams of becoming a writer.

It’s the first time in my life that I can say “Love is supposed to be easy and feel good, instead of feeling like an excruciatingly painful task that takes all my energy.”

It’s not that we have never faced challenges, but still, my “worst” day with him has been better than any day with my ex.

I could talk for hours about how happy I am with David. Even his so-called imperfections are tailored to my needs for growth—almost as if he had been designed to fit ME by someone who loves me and knows me very well.

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