The Law of Attraction states that we draw to us the people, places, and experiences that match our state of being. And the good news is that you already know how to manifest because you’ve done it many, many times before. Maybe you didn’t think of it as manifestation at the time, but if you’ve created a new job or new place to live or a parking place or found the perfect little black dress at the mall, you have flexed your manifestation muscles.

And you can absolutely use them in the area of romance!

The first thing to understand when you’re manifesting is the difference between wanting and knowing. When we’re in a state of wanting (the same with needing, hoping, dreaming, wishing or yearning), all we draw to us is more of that same feeling of wanting, hoping, wishing or yearning. This certainly doesn’t get you the relationship you desire.

So the shift we need to make is to knowing: knowing and trusting that the one we’ve asked for is already ours. Knowing that our perfect right partner is out there, right now, just waiting for us to put out the cosmic welcome mat. Also know that there are many, many soulmate possibilities for each of us.

All you have to do is choose to believe in, own, embrace and live in the knowingness that your perfect partner already exists.  

The Soulmate Manifestation Exercise

1. Make a list of all the things you don’t want your soulmate to be. (You can look to your past relationships to come up with ideas.) Write down anything that comes to mind, whatever those “don’t wants” are for you.

I don’t want my soulmate to be a liar.

I don’t want my soulmate to be a cheater.

I don’t want my soulmate to be lazy.

Make a second list where you turn all of those “don’t wants,” those negatives, into powerful positive statements. So, if betrayal has been an issue in past relationships, and on your first list you have, “I don’t want a cheater,” then on the second list, turn that into “My soulmate is loyal and monogamous.”

My soulmate is honest and trustworthy.

My soulmate is loyal and monogamous.

My soulmate is passionate about his career and driven to create a beautiful shared life.

2. Now ask yourself, “What are the heart traits and qualities that I truly desire in a soulmate?” Begin to prioritize the traits and qualities that are going to fulfill you on the deepest level.

Add those to this second list.

My soulmate is

loving, kind, affectionate,

generous, compassionate,

strong, mature

My soulmate …

has a great sense of humor and makes me laugh

loves to cook dinner with me

holds my hand while we’re watching a movie together

3. Write a paragraph (or page) that describes your lifestyle together.  Really go for it! Describe what your days and nights, your weekends and holidays, your vacations are like together. As you do, begin to really marinate in the juiciness of the life that you’re creating with your beloved.

Pay attention to what comes up for you as you develop and sit with the state of being that starts to emerge. You might notice a new feeling or goal arising, or you might find yourself opening up to a new intuition. While manifestation takes different forms for different people, like a trail of breadcrumbs, this energy can lead you—bit by bit—all the way to your soulmate.


This exercise will help you get clear and then start to connect to the energy of the love you desire. This is the essential first step to magnetize that energy to come into your life.

To your soulmate—who is on their way to you!


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