Are You a Mermaid or a Whale?


“Do you want to be a mermaid or a whale?”   

This was the headline on a poster that appeared in the window of a gym in a large city in France. The poster featured a young, thin and tan woman.

One middle-aged woman, whose physical characteristics did not match those of the woman on the poster, responded publicly to the question posted by the gym. She wrote:

To Whom It May Concern:

Whales are always surrounded by friends . . . dolphins, sea lions, curious humans. They have an active sex life, get pregnant and have adorable baby whales. They have a wonderful time stuffing themselves with shrimp. They play and swim in the seas, seeing wonderful places like Patagonia, the Bering Sea and the coral reefs of Polynesia. Whales are wonderful singers and have even recorded CDs. They are incredible creatures and virtually have no predators other than humans.  

They are loved, protected and admired by almost everyone in the world.

Mermaids don’t exist. If they did exist, they would be lining up outside the offices of psychoanalysts due to an identity crisis. Fish or human? They don’t have a sex life because they kill men who get close to them, not to mention how could they have sex? Just look at them . . . where is IT? Therefore, they don’t have kids either. Not to mention, who wants to get close to a girl who smells like a fish store? The choice is perfectly clear to me: I want to be a whale.  

I share this story for those of you who still believe you won’t deserve your Soulmate until you lose a certain amount of weight or change some part of your physical appearance. Your Soulmate is searching for a real person with real love to share not some half-starved, insecure, specimen of Madison Avenue’s standard of perfection. Stop hiding out behind your excuses (or over-indulgence in junk food) and commit today to loving yourself enough to magnetize your Soulmate to you.

Now, more than ever, Planet Earth needs your love – the blissful love of self-loving, self-nurturing singles as well as happy couples beaming more love to everyone and everything around them. Stop depriving the world of your love and join the whales.




  1. Beautifully written article. i think I am a whale too. I thought I was a siren before, enjoying rivers and abandoned lakes and specially the moonlight after midnight. I guess I can be both!
    Guiomar Campbell

  2. Thank you for this. I was just now having another “I can’t stand my fat body” session. Then I read this. So perfect. I am a whale and I love being a whale. Only that self love motivates me to be on this walk out in the Los Angeles fog this morning. Thank you for helping me slip my divine lens back on!

  3. Hi

    Great article. Based on research that I have read, the most attractive thing about a women is self confidence. SELF being the operative word as it is only you who can give it to you. When a women is constantly self loathing and being critical of who she is, she is actually open up an area that was originally unexplored by the observer. Has anyone ever pointed out something to you, that you never noticed before then all of a sudden you keep noticing it all the time?
    It can be argued that we sometimes do it as a safety mechanism to protect our feelings, by highlighting all your flaws before the person does, or to eliminate any thought that maybe you haven’t noticed these things about yourself.
    Anyway, you should try this exercise, look in the mirror and think how gorgeous you look, so beautiful and then do the opposite. You may or may not notice that this makes a huge difference to how you see yourself and as a result how others see you and therefore how imagery within the media can or can not affect you.

    Chat soon gorgeous people


  4. Interesting! Whales do have other enemies apart from man, ‘other whales e.g killer whàles’. They are such beautiful creatures and very grateful. Mermaids do exist if you are in the right place at the right time, not to mention the right frequency. They, yes granted are an unusual species and the tales told by fisherman hundreds of years ago makes it interesting to seek out the truth and find out for one’s self the truth behind each story. If someone says that something does not exist, don’t take their word for it, ALWAYS do the research for yourself and come to your own conclusion.

  5. In my life time, I have never met a human being who’s beauty both inside and outside can match the beauty of Mother Earth. Connect yourself to her and just like what she has always done for me she will tell you through dreams and visions when there will be snow, heavy rain or even very hot weather. She will at times surprise you but always through love. Keep the connection always, because the time may come when you will need Her to remember you!

  6. I am a mermaid, but look like a whale. I am not an Art of Love Expert,but I join y in celebrating international Women’s day, but I don’t orchestrate Time at this time or any time but this is just fine if you don’t mind. I am available when its time to dine. Please let me know if you want play around at

    Good night Stoney